Yes I understand what you are saying Doug. We can all be guilty of that way of being. I see that a lot of the young people gain a lot of 'street cred' by doing the things they do. When there is no example set of other ways of being or of being able to transcend your surroundings the tendency is to be pulled into the herd instinct.
I am also aware that in the UK the class system is so restrictive . In some ways things have not moved on at all. This is obvious in all kinds of ways. What one aspires to is very little - if you buy into feeling hopeless and helpless.
Going off on another track - Religions where people refuse to acknowledge that consciousness changes and that what was realistic in days gone by no longer applies.
The youth who are stuck in the shadows of their ancestors conditioning (class wise) are no different to the youth who are bored with what most religions have to offer nowadays. People seem unable to absorb new ways of being for fear of being toppled off their pedestals. The result being that if the consciousness of the 'Higher' circle is threatened by new input then ranks are closed and growth is stunted.
I am involved in a lot of multi-faith work. A Christian deacon came to work in this area less than 12 months ago. He was different to the usual deacons that arrive here. He was quite open and had been around a lot and seen a lot of life. He had a lot to offer the Christian team already working in the area. Unfortunately he was too different and would not do as he was told, what I mean is, he would not submit to other peoples wills. He is leaving in a few weeks time. What would normally have been a minimum of 5 years service has been become a lot shorter. He was the most interesting member of the clergy with a refreshing openess to listening and discussing other viewpoints.
All very interesting the games of life
Thanks for the discussion.